Working Less & Attending My First Gay Wedding by Jamie Gilcig – August 18, 2013

Working Less & Attending My First Gay Wedding by Jamie Gilcig – August 18, 2013

jg2CFN – So on doctors orders I’ve had to cut back my work load.   The seven days per week 100+ gay marriagehours thing after nearly five years has had its toll.

But I still like to have fun and it’s not like I’m working in a coal mine or factory although it feels that way sometimes.

It’s Ironic and funny that now that I am curtailing my availability to events I’m getting more and more invites?

Yesterday I attended a wedding.  Now family and friends know I hate weddings.  Heck, I hated my own even.   Not because I didn’t love my ex-wife or didn’t want to marry her; but it meant flying and it meant dealing with her family and friends, many of whom hated me because I took their beloved to Eastern Ontario from beautiful BC.

But Saturday’s wedding was very different.  For one it was the first Gay wedding I was ever to attend and it had a Hawaiian motif, and as anyone that knows me knows I love my Hawaiian shirts!

And I didn’t have to fly!   It was at a lovely golf course.  The grooms wore white for the ceremony, and the shafts of titanium bonked golf balls behind the lovely trio that serenaded the couple to the tune of Bolero as they made their entrance.

Gay Marriage has been one of the hottest topics in the news in 2013.   It really has and frankly it’s odd and bewildering to me.   I stood back, enjoying my Bombay Gin & Tonic watching some of the onlookers cry tears of happiness for the couple.

Was it really that different than a heterosexual wedding?  Not really.   At the end of the day and debate on the subject it’s such a huge thing for any couple to lay it on the line and make that lifetime commitment.    It was a lovely joining of two lives.

Being single again at my advanced age is bewildering.   Did I have pangs of jealousy for the Happy couple who were about to embark on this magical journey that nearly 40% end up in divorce within 8 years?

No.  It was just a beautiful day, in a beautiful place, where I got to share a beautiful moment with the 200 or so guests and family.

Shakespeare was famous for starting epic tales with lightning and storms.  You know everyone was safe when the sun shined and birds sang and flew.

Watching two doves released at the wedding gave me hope; not just for an old single guy like me, but for the world.    If we can accept each other for whom we are that’s half the battle.

And at that lovely ceremony we all won…..except that the couple were hesitant to have media coverage in this story.  Progress always comes in steps.  As long as they’re in the right direction we all get to move forward.

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Ed
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I married my husband almost 2 years ago here in Cornwall and it was the best day of my life! Would do it all over again in a heartbeat! Cheers to you for having an open mind and printing such a great story!

Diddlyscwatt
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Jamie, you may feel it from time to time, but believe me, 50 IS NOT OLD. By today’s standards you are going through middle-age…still…

Good article. I am not strong on this subject purely for my concern that we as a society continue to eliminate growth in our numbers, especially in light of other culture who produce off-spring at a phenomenal rate, far greater than our own.

Prudish, no, just real.

That old argument being said, I hope the couple live in peace and harmony.

Furtz
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I bet it was fun.
@ Diddlyscwatt. You don’t have to worry too much about the human population being in decline. We’re at about 7.2 billion right now. In 1960, a mere 53 years ago, we were at 3 billion.

jules
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LOL LOL. I am asking what the bride wore? LOL LOL. That must have been very strange indeed.

stellabystarlight
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Jamie…..what a heart warming story. Thank-you for sharing. I am not surprised at the Dr.’s recommendation. Putting in 100+ hrs a week is just too much for any human being. You need to care of yourself. What good is money if you don’t have good health. Besides, we need you to be healthy in order to keep this site going. Jamie wrote: If we can accept each other for whom we are that’s half the battle…….you got that right. Take care, slow down some and take time of you………everybody needs this in order to keep their sanity.
Highlander
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Jamie ,

I really enjoyed the article .

I have many friends who are gay and believe in their commitment to marriage .
Being lesbian ,gay or straight we all long for that partnership with ever lasting love,I feel proud that we live in a more excepting times and these couples can express their love through marriage.

I have always felt that if more people were to meet openly gay people through friends and family the world would be a much more tolerable place.
As well a few straight guys would learn how to dress better..LOL LOL

Highlander
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Ps. Jamie ,

I know CFN is your passion ,but at times one must step aside if but for a few moments to keep that passion before it becomes a burden.

I know you live and breath CFN ,but take some time for yourself and health ,as we want you here for the long haul.

Furtz
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@ Highlander. Are you saying that I dress badly?

Highlander
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Furtz
August 18, 2013 at 5:50 pm

“@ Highlander. Are you saying that I dress badly?”

HEY WE CAN ALL USE A STYLE CONSULTANT !
That and interior consultant as well ..lol..lol

Diddlyscwatt
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Can’t forget the next election…short cuts now blast em then……

john
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You are doing a great job. I enjoy reading your stories, I am originally from Cornwall and moved away a few years back, I have lived in Collingwood area for a while and now out in Calgary. I come back twice a year and will be coming back for a wedding of my own next august. I choose Upper Canada village. Hey your welcome to attend ! Keep up the excellent reporting, Maintain balance, mind body and soul. As you already know with out “YOU” there is no reporting or even the love of your pets. very unique combination of… Read more »
jules
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Jaime 100 hours a week is too much. Your health can pay the toll for all of that. Slow down some and enjoy your life. Like John mentioned about your dogs, honest to God Jamie they are a prize. I had a good chuckle looking at little Fitzie and a very nervous dog in the arms of the police chief and then I saw him with that toy around his neck. All your dogs are so loyal and no wonder they call dogs a man’s best friend. Sit back Jamie and enjoy them – they bring such happiness.
jules
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Jamie I sure do see what you are talking about and yes I do agree with you saying that it is a “conspiracy” and even a “witchhunt”. Jamie you are the best and that gang in Cornwall knows it and they hate competition because they cannot compete with you at all. I swear to God that you are the only paper I read. I used to look at Cornwall’s toilet paper of record – SF but it has been a very long time that I won’t even look at anything in there nor any other not even Ottawa’s papers. If… Read more »
Miss Steak
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I wonder what the bride wore??????? What in hell does that have to do with anything??? There is no bride in a GAY wedding! They are both husbands to each other. I also was in attendance, and it would put a lot of STRAIGHT weddings to shame. Everything was done extremely well and to perfection! They both were dressed exactly the same. The food, the music, the drink were all given free! You did not need to bring your wallet with you at all. All that was asked of you as a gift, was to give to a charity of… Read more »
Diddlyscwatt
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Gay if you are into it, fine. I wonder how any of us would have turned out if we were say ‘cloned’ and/or a test tube mistakes where a human being grown, or say a GMO human. Can’t say that is NOT going on today, as we speak. With 9.0 billion on the planet no doubt some are gay. A concern would be would the rate of gayness be the same in every region of the world? Perhaps it is a good thing that gays are now accepted in the military as well as a strong female contingency. When we… Read more »
Wow!
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I do hope it was Bombay Sapphire.

PJ Robertson
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Lovely piece, Jamie. Now follow doctor’s orders and look after yourself

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